Insecurities

I thought that I won´t have to talk about this topic anymore either. But this problem will be there no matter what and forever. Maybe some girsl are comfortable with what they look like, but the most of the girls aren´t. There are people out there who still struggle with this problem every day and I want to help them.

I realised that it is really hard to fully recover from an eating disorder. I don´t know how the others feel who "recovered" from it, but in my case there are still days when I think about how things were before and whether it wouldn´t be a good idea to eat less again. I think that you won´t fully recover from and ED until you are completely comfortable with what you look like. And let´s say the truth.....even skinny girsl have some problems with their bodies. There is always something girls don´t like about themselves. And for the thing that I said before that there are some days when I and maybe other girls too think about what they look like.....it often takes just little words from big headed girls, bullies or some dumb guys. So for those who call someone fat.....first of all:

I don´t remember asking you about your opinion. Nobody is curious about what you think of me. Second of all: Who the hell are you to talk to me like this?! I mean......it is really rude to call somebody fat. Because you don´t know how the person feels. If you call a girl fat who already has mental issues about it you can cause real problems - eating disorders and if you keep doing it then we can even call it bullying. And for the guys out there. Never ever call a girl fat because we all know that girls and women are generaly insecure about their bodies. So never ever call anybody fat if it isn´t true or if it is true......It doesn´t matter. Just don´t do it.

I want to explain something. Girls or guys are often overweight because they don´t feel loved enough and eat a lot to replace the love with food, or they have problems and they feel nervous and eat a lot. Or they might already know that they are not what they want to be, but they have just so many other problems that they do not care about it that much. These are just some possibilities why they might be overweight. You never know what is going on in someody elses life.

So this was for the people to know how they feel. And this part is for the ones who get called the names. It really doesn´t matter what they say. They will always have something against you. You will never be pretty enough, skinny enough or good enough for everybody. But you can be all these for yourself. So I have a kinda solution which won´t solve everything but you might feel better after my words.:You shouldn´t be trying to be perfect for the world when the world itself isn´t perfect and has flaws. Even people aren´t perfect. Sociaty expects boys to be gentlemen and clever, a prince on a white horse and make a lot of money. But we all know that the most of them aren´t like that. Girls shouldn´t be expecting the perfect guy. There aren´t perfect guys. Everybody has some bad habits. However the guys are amazing in other ways than being the perfect gentleman. They have a great sense of humor and every one of them in a different way. Sociaty also expects girls to be skinny and perfect. If every girl was like that you wouldn´t have to choose a girl. They would be all the same. Instead of these features try to be beautiful and unique. Because girls are beautiful and have unique personalities in their own ways. Stop being perfect and trying to hide your flaws. We are people and not robots or clones. Be unique. There isn´t a simple perfect person in this world. We are different, have different bodies, faces, hair and personalities. Accept who you are and be who you are. The people who call you fat actually have some doubts about themselves. They think that they are fat and they call you fat to make themselves seem better and skinnier. But it doesn´t make them any prettier when they call you the names. You have your own head and it is important what you think of yourself. Now some of you will say that you aren´t pretty at all and that you don´t have anything good on your body. That isn´t true. You are beautiful. Look into the mirror the way you want others to look at you. You start being pretty when you admit that you are not any other person in the world and what you look like is unique. And the thing that makes you the prettiest is confidence. Because if you feel good about yourself you are the prettiest you can be. And how do you gain confidence? I don´t really know. Well, I know one thing....there is noone in the world who is the same as you, has the same beauty as you. And beauty isn´t just the way you look. It is the way you act, your personality and the happiness you have. Because i´ve neer seen a girl more beautiful than in the moment she was happy and truly smiled. (:

I dedicate this article to CURLY and BOW. Actually a dedicate this to all the girls out there who have something they don´t like about themselves. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Smile. (:

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