Mirrors

This society dictates us to try to be even more perfect every day. Always just perfect. We are never too thin, too smart, too whatever. You will always have flaws. Somehow we just think that if somebody is thin then the person is "perfect". We always just concentrate on the looks like we were some robots or I don´t know. But I just don´t get why? Why is it so important to us to be "PERFECT" or as we always want to be "THIN" ? Do you think that if you reach your goal weight on the scale you will be happy? No, you won´t because you won´t feel "good enough" for everybody. The point is that we look at each other and judge. Judge by the way we look without even knowing what the person is like. You haven´t seen their soul. Imagine yourself looking into a mirror and tell me who you see. The most common answer to this question would probably be: "I don´t know. I just see fat there and there and I would change that and that. I feel bad. I am fat. I hate myself. MY biggest wish would be to completely change myself to a whole another person" Yes. This is the truth. You would never say: "I see ME. I like who I am inside and my body doesn´t mean as much to me as who I am. I like who I am and I believe that even just a few people like me for who I am." You are stopped by this illusion about a perfect body and your mind is filled with these pictures of "perfect" bodies and you compare yourself to those people even though you don´t know why or how they look in that certain way. We just do this. Why don´t we look behind those images. Because as I see it. it is just a picture. Your body is just a picture. You can photoshop it (change it(, do different colours(dress in any way you would like and what you makes feel pretty (, cut it in whatever shape you would want to( exercise or eat healthier(. So it is really up to you. But one thing stays. The memory and the thoughts in the moment the picture was taken. There is so much more into everyday things. You are not just the way you look. The person you see in that mirror should be YOU with your personality and everything which goes with that whole pack. Your dreams, friends, memories and achievments. And mostly that SMILE. Because that is what makes you truly BEAUTIFUL.

The survey of 5,000 women, commissioned by REAL magazine, found that 91% of women were unhappy with their hips and thighs, 77% were dissatisfied with their waist and 78% said they had cellulite.

Three-quarters of British women were unhappy with their shape, 71% with their weight and six out of 10 said their body image made them feel depressed.

Some 65% of those surveyed felt their life would improve considerably if they were happy with their body.

So as you can see the most women are unhappy with their bodies. We never consider ourselves as thin, beautiful or confident because we think we aren´t supposed to. Because what society does is that they give us these super thin models(nothing against them if they are healthy(, the actresses, singers and whoever who are also struggleing with their bodies and these unreachable standarts of society and they tell us that we aren´t good enough, perfect, thin, skinny, tall enough, we don´t have that number on the scale and they call us all these labels as fat, curvy, thick, too skinny, skeletton and other ugly names. They make us feel bad and disgusted with ourselves like we were nothing. Just a waste of space. And then after all this they expect us to change our minds and think that we are all beautiful. You know what?! Screw society. No wonder there are so many dying people from EDs and all these girls and even boys hate themselves to death. The truth is that in my opinion noone deserves to feel that way. We should have confidence but if you look back at what I said you can see yourself it is pretty rare in this kinda world. I think that everybody has a different body because we are all different and that is why we shouldn´t call anyone anything. Because EVERY BODY is different. I always thought that being comfortable with how you look is just being selfish and not thinking about other people. Because I felt the need to have that feeling of not being good enough. I thought that I had to feel that way because if you were comfortable it was wrong. But it really isn´t. We don´t need to be PERFECT. We tend to care the most about what people think about us as people but never as caring individuals. We could care less about who we could be if we looked different but instead of that we should accept who we are and if we feel like we could be better than change in a healthy way without EDs. Please do hear me out and don´t just ingore this whole thing. I know the most of you won´t feel the way I told you because you just won´t. You will keep doinng whatever you are doing, hating yourself, being sad about it and doing nothing to love yourself. Eating nothing or doing something crazy to your body under the thought that maybe reaching the next lower number would make you happy or that maybe with one more day you could reach your goal weight which will reduce more and more every day isn´t the right way to do it. You are going to hate yourself more and more. And stop making it as a sad epic story like it was beautiful. " The girl who was never comfortable with what she saw and felt bad even though she was beautiful." No. You are just one of the millions like that. It isn´t good for you. I claim that the only thing holding you back from being comfortable with who you are and how you look is actually the thought that you know that even if you did everything you would still feel like a nothing for the rest of the world. But you are much more than a NOTHING. You are cared for and that person in the mirror is just the picture you show to the world of who you are. The real things are inside you. The only thing that really matetrs is inside you but you are inhibiting that lovely person you are with those thoughts about your body and you can never be HAPPY. Because even though you concentrate on the body the real thing about this is how you feel. You can be whatever shape you want to but if you aren´t comfortable with who that person is you will never be "good enough"or "perfect" and mostly HAPPY. The number on the scale is just a number. Numbers are infinite. And so will be your journey to happiness if you keep just looking at them. You are so much more woth than those numbers.Stop caring about anybody and find happiness in yourself. Not in the body you want, the images in your head, the endless ED quotes. Love yourself first and then don´t change but improve.

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