Society standards

So if you look at the world of teenagers or young adults who are on the internet every day or almost every day this is what the world looks like: society judging everybody for the way we look, the way we act, the things we do and the things we like. We are affected by what other people think about us and by "fitting into" a group of people. The point is that either the world/the media tell us how we should look or act or the people around us somehow tell or you can simply figure it out by yourself/you notice when people give you looks when something is different. I´ve learned that you can never completely be perfect for people. If you don´t look like the girl from the magazines then you aren´t beautiful at all, if you do then you are conceited. If you are still a virgin by the age of 18-20 you are pathetic and if you aren´t you are looked at as a hooker. If you are too happy then you seem to have no problems and if you are sad then you are considered to be depressed and suicidal. If you are too smart they hate you and if you are less intelligent they call you stupid. If a 14 year old watches cartoons then he/she is childish and if he/she watches movies for older kids or adults then is considered to be a pervert or naughty. There isn´t a way how to be good enough in everything for everybody.

My experience with all of this was for example that in middle school until 5th grade I was one of the smartest in my class. There were times when I got the highest scores in the class and I was praised by teachers for it but I had no friends because they were jealous of me and hated me as well. In 6th grade I was not liked that much because of my achievements and the things I did for the school. At 7th grade I was considered to be weirder or stupid because I didn´t know most of the celebrities, actors, singers or brands of cars. In 8th grade I was taught to care more about my appearance because everybody was doing so and I felt I was supposed to. In 9th grade some guys didn´t like my hair because I don´t have this norma hair cut - I have bangs - really 80s or early 90s. Then I let my hair grow so it was normal but after some time I felt like something was missing from me so I cut it back. If I really acted how I wanted to I would be pretty quiet maybe. Sometimes I tend to ask dumb questions just to say something. My friend always told me I was too serious and that I had to laugh and smile a lot. There is nothing wrong with that. I think I was just too concentrated on the studying. So here is what I want to teach you. If there is something different about you then take it and use it as a weapon. Don´t hide your individuality. There are people who are trying to be like evrybody else. If there is something you love doing but others see it as a strange thing then close your eyes and forget about them. Do your own thing, make yourself happy. And what if they call you weird and goofy? Shock them with how good you are in those things and how different you are. Be unique. I remember how they make fun of you for those things. Teachers and our parents always said: "Well, they might be making fun of you but they surely can´t do it." It doesn´t really matter if they hate you or love you. Either way you got their attention and that is something. You disturb their simplicity. And that is what this whole thing is about. However care about the right people. Don´t listen to the haters because as I said they aren´t as good as you. Hate comes from jealousy and jealousy comes from self confidence. A person who is independent and ambitious would never waste time to make other peoples lives miserable. If they feel they aren´t good enough they are going to hate. You should cut out those people from your life because they are not worth even caring for. I claim that if you just mention those people you secretly still care. But whatever right?! Be yourself, take your flaws and talents and learn how to show the world who you really are. Be YOUnique.

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